i guess chivalry isn’t dead?
today, while perusing the lara bars and other bars i cannot afford at whole foods, someone behind me went “excuse me?”. since i like to shop alone with headphones in my ears, i removed a bud and turned around to face a young black guy about my age. i said hi. he went on. well, he kind of stumbled on, really. with a question.
“hey, do you mind if i compliment your figure?”
uh, no. who turns down compliments?
“well, i felt like i should just say something instead of staring. but you have a really beautiful figure. i’d say you have what i’d call an hour glass figure. it’s really nice.”
after a few jumbled thank yous and a lot of turning red (because i do that) we proceeded to talk for a few minutes. about beer. about where we grew up. about school. about how he knows my aunt (small world, marin county). then i gave him my number and paid for my apple. will i see him again? who knows! will he text or call? who knows!
not the point.
the point is this: getting that compliment paid to the very thing i’ve struggled so hard with totally made my day. and holy hell — he asked to compliment on my body instead of saying something like, “girl, you’re thick.” (something else i’ve heard).
the other point: next time you see a woman (or a man!) with a body you think is beautiful, why not tell them! some people are not told how beautiful they are on a regular basis. why not remind them of something they might have forgotten?
i cannot tell you the amount of time i’ve seen a woman (and men!) and thought “wow! she’s beautiful!” and wanted to just tell them. i always end up holding back though. i guess because it’s not what we tell people on the reg. but how come? why can’t we remark respectfully on the things we find lovely?
i truly am gaining body confidence. here, in this body so drastically changed. here, in this body of the woman i was maybe meant to be. here, in this beautiful, hourglass body. i can’t really believe it myself.
(p.s: check out my new blog co-created and co-written with my friend victoria! hippie happenings! i posted something